It can be healthy to fight and to have conflict within any relationship. But there are rules to how you fight, i.e. rules of engagement, and you need to know the warning signs when conflict takes a more damaging turn. Carrie Cole, PhD., director of research for Gottman, Inc. will share information about how to manage conflict using Gottman principles. Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman developed therapeutic interventions to calm conflict based on 40 years of scientific research. Dr. Cole will describe the destructive behaviors, known as the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and share how to change these behaviors. The physiological response to a threat, called flooding, will also be discussed as well as ways to manage these responses. In addition, Dr. Cole will provide interventions to manage current, past, and ongoing conflicts.
About our speaker:
Carrie Cole (PhD, LPC-S, LMHC) is the Love Lab Director and Research Director for The Gottman Institute. She is also a licensed professional counselor and an approved LPC supervisor. Carrie holds a master’s degree in Counseling Psychology, and a PhD. in psychology with a specialization in research, her work with couples includes couples therapy, workshops, seminars, and intensive marathon sessions.
Carrie’s passion for working with couples led her to found the Center for Relationship Wellness together with her husband, Dr. Don Cole. She has always had a profound interest in using a scientific approach to psychotherapy. Having discovered the research of Dr. John Gottman in graduate school, Carrie became a Certified Gottman Therapist and Certified Gottman Workshop Leader in 2007.
Carrie is a Master Trainer for The Gottman Institute and trains other therapists in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. She is also a consultant and a video reviewer for the certification program. She has led The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples multiple times a year since 2008. In addition to leading workshops and training other therapists, Carrie has authored and co-authored several peer-reviewed journal articles book chapters.
Peer Support Complement:
For most of our EmpowerEd events, we offer the opportunity to discuss and process the formal presentation in a complementary peer support event. The Let’s Talk About It session information will be updated here once details are confirmed.
Eligibility:
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